Reasons To Be Choosy With Your Friends

A lot of people don't realize the importance of picking and choosing their friends carefully. Those people become friends with everyone and anyone with full trust in the beginning. Let me tell you why you should make your friends earn your trust, rather than allow them to lose your trust from the start. 

For the past year and a half to two years I have been having real issues with my "best friend." She and I grew up together since birth (minus the years we lived in different states). But recently, she's been showing me how full of hate she is. Isn't that a horrible feeling? Finding out your supposedly closest friend is telling others secrets about you? Lying to you constantly about their life? Cancelling plans on you 9 out of 10 times? 

Well this feeling is much worse than that. I'm actually being harassed and verbally abused. She completely did a 180 on me. I understood everything she was going through, especially considering I was going through similar issues. She acted like she didn't want to be friends at all. She was like my sister, y'all. So, you know what I did?

I CARED. 

Yeah, I cared. I offered to help her and her family out. I offered to bring her stuff when she was sick. I actually went to bring her stuff one day and found out she was lying. I kept making plans with her even though she kept cancelling and didn't have time for me. I prayed for her a lot too. I felt so bad for her that I couldn't give up on her. Well guess what? She recently started verbally abusing me. You think I'm exaggerating? Verbal abuse is defined as "a negative defining statement told to the victim or about the victim, or by withholding any response, thereby defining the target as non-existent." I forgave her for it whether or not she believes me. So why am I sharing this on my blog? 

Because,

God takes people out of our lives for a reason. Some friendships are toxic, but we want to keep those friends close to us because we grew up with them. We trusted them above anyone else. We love them for who they were, not what they are becoming. I want to encourage all of y'all to really pray and see if your friendships are honoring to God, if your relationships are healthy. If your relationships are tearing you down, you CAN walk away. The pain of ending a friendship, is the gain of success in your life.

Thank you to all of my family and true friends. Your honesty doesn't go unnoticed.
xoxo
-The Wife